Wheel of Life
Using the diagram below, map out the 8 areas of your life that are most important to you, such career, creativity, organization, relationships, health, self- growth, education, family, parenting, finances, etc.
Once you have labeled each of the pie slices, assess each area based on your satisfaction/skill set. (0 represents low and 10 represents high satisfaction.) Connect the the scores with a line to draw a circle within the wheel.
How balanced does your wheel look? What areas need improvement?
Complete the exercise before you move forward.
What beliefs really zapper your energy?
Sometimes you believe things to be true that really aren’t. Your insecurities, fears and ego make up stories all the time.
Here’s an example:
Imagine that you are patiently waiting in the security line at the airport for 20 minutes. It’s really hot and noisy; you are feeling impatient. All of a sudden, someone tries to rush the line. What would you response be? Would you get angry, thinking who are you to cut the line? Why didn’t you leave sooner, etc?
Most likely you would be angry.
But what if you learned that this person had just found out that their loved one was in a serious accident, and possibly on death’s bed? They may never see their loved one alive again. Would that change your reaction? If you are like most, you would have instant compassion for that person.
You always have a choice in determining how you will respond, which will determine the way you experience life.
Instead of going into that dark place, consider giving out compassion to yourself and others as your first line of action.
Now describe an alternate reality, a new possibility, one that is better than the current situation and one that you could believe.
For example: A client of mine dreaded visiting with her sisters. There was always drama and arguing, and my client often left frustrated and angry.
Here’s the new alternate reality: Instead of reacting to my sisters, I am going to show my sisters how to feel special because they may not know how to do it. I am making it my job to show them how.
The next time my client met with her sisters and had a great time. She realized that the drama she felt in previous outings was a result of her own resistance, her expectation that there would be drama and arguing.
Here’s another example.
Years ago, I arrived early to a networking event at a friend’s house. I was in the small dining room waiting for people to arrive. Suddenly, 2 new people showed up and walked into the dining room, standing just feet away from me. As they chatted away, they did not acknowledge me. I kept thinking how rude they were!
I could have stayed angry with their rudeness, or as I did, chose to shift my perspective.
Where do you need to stretch out of your old thinking/reality? Once you come up with a new reality, put it into action. Be sure to write down any evidence that supports this new reality so you can change your thinking for all situations.
Remember: we will always prove ourselves right. So which reality feels better, more expansive? You may be the center of your universe but you are not the center of the universe. Don’t make every situation be about you.
Beliefs are created in our tender years. As you observe how people treat you, show up for you, assure you, or possibly, ignore your needs, from these actions, you draw conclusions about who and what you are.
Imagine being a baby, if you are ignored, or don’t receive the assurance that there is someone there to take care of you, protect you, you may become insecure about life, anxious or fearful that you are all alone. These energies stay with you for life until you decide to let them go. This is called attachment theory.
To learn more about attachment theory, watch the video below.
Think back to your significant life events. What do you remember? What is the belief that you created as a result? These are your stories. Write them down.
Possible stories could be that you lent a person money and they never paid you back. The story could be that people never pay you back when you lend them money. Or it could be that a boyfriend cheated on you. The story could be that men cannot be trusted.
What stories did you create as a way to protect yourself? What stories keep repeating in your life?
Look at each belief and ask yourself, will my life be better with this belief or not? Does my story serve me? Or would I be better off if I release it?
It’s time to let go of the old stories and open up to the unlimited possibilities.